To Procreate or Not to Procreate? That is the Question. Part I
Okay I should preface this by saying that I have a tendency to over-analyze things. Many people would approach the whole ‘having a family’ thing by asking themselves “Do I want a baby?” and then they may answer, “Yes. Yes I do. Okay let’s get it on - without birth control” or, conversely, “Hells to the no. Strap that rubber on, spray on some spermicide and I’ll just add some foam to my diaphragm to be on the safe side”. Me, on the other hand, I have to turn it an epic discussion that lasts years.
Basically it’s like this, I adore my husband. We have a great relationship and we both have a touch of the free spirit in us. I love that we can up and quit our jobs and go to South America for six months with few repercussions. I love that instead of just talking about it we actually do it. Our life “plan” changes a lot and it freaks me out to think of how we may have to start sticking to our plans a little more once a child comes into the picture.
One of my major concerns is how it will affect my relationship with my husband, David. I try to impress upon him that once a child arrives he will no longer be number one in my life. Okay I guess he’d really be number three because, let’s be honest, I’ve been number one. Once a baby arrives I’ll be bumped to number two and then poor David will be number three and, from what I have seen, number three can sometimes end up completely off the radar basically until the kids graduate!
So major concern number one is that my relationship with David, which is pretty fantastic as is, will have to be completely reworked. I essentially have to kiss my life as I know it goodbye because it will never be the same again once children enter the picture.
On the flip side, I adore kids, always have. That’s why I was a teacher for seven years. I think being a mom would be so fun, rewarding and challenging and I can’t imagine missing out on that chance. I think about my own childhood and how great it was and I’d like to have that again but be on the other side, experience it as a parent.
So what do you guys think? Am I just over thinking this or what? How has your relationship changed since having a baby (or two or three)? I’d love to hear your experiences.
~Laura
Labels: baby, Children, husband, Laura, pregnancy, Procreate, Relationship
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