Making Whoopee After having a Baby... (Guest Blogger)
I can almost count on one hand how many times my husband and I have had sex since our daughter was born ten months ago.

Sex has become a chore since the baby was born. Sometimes the "S" word is marked down on the weekly list of things to get done around the house...... "get milk, scrub the toilet, have sex tonight, and do the laundry."

I have tried many different methods of avoiding sex. I will stay up way later than I'd like and crawl into bed hours after my husband has, claiming I have a bad headache, or that "Aunt Flow" is visiting.

And, I finally give in......... I'm not going to beat around the brush, when it comes down to doing the deed, I prefer it to last as long as the commercials do during my favourite TV shows. I feel it is more necessary to know who is getting kicked off the “Biggest Loser” or who is sleeping with whom on “Grey's Anatomy”. Yes, it is true, I am way more interested to know about the sex lives of some made up drama on TV than I am interested in my own bedroom romance.

It's not like I am insecure about the stretch marks on my stomach or the loose belly skin that I am sporting these days. I actually like my body more now than before I gave birth. I think my body is incredible for what it has done, and my breasts and butt just seem so much perkier since my daughter arrived. I guess what I am saying is; "I would have sex with me if the shoe was on the other foot!"

I am lucky to have a husband who will love me no matter what, and trust me I have been a little rough around the edges many times through out our ten year relationship. He has never been one to fuss in the bedroom either, but these days I think he is feeling a little left out of the sack. And, it doesn't have anything to do with not having a connection with my husband. In fact I think we have a better and stronger relationship now then before becoming parents. He is my confidant, best friend and co-parent.

But why do I hate SEX? I am looking for your thoughts? Tell me how you and your partner got back into the groove after your child/children were born.

~Annelise

Annelise is the mother to 10 month old Charlize, wife, artist and entrepreneur. Check out her magical children's art work at her new website.

Labels: Annelise, baby, parents, Relationship, sex, whoopee

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