Patience seems to be running low these days. I’ve heard it from friends, seen facebook statuses stating it, and have felt it myself. So why are we all running out of patience? I think it’s a pretty normal feeling for parents. We all have those days when our kids are just driving us nuts but just because it’s normal doesn’t make it any easier to deal with. So what do you do when you’re at your wits end? Seriously, I want to know. I’ve been feeling at my wits ends a lot this week with little sleep, and a teething, whining toddler on my hands.
Here are some ideas I’ve found that help me:
Plan an activity for every day
– it doesn’t have to be some elaborate activity, just something that will keep the kids occupied for an hour or so. For example, have a bug hunt in the backyard, do some crafts, set up a picnic. It is something that will allow you to fade into the background for a little while.
Get out of the house
– it’s amazing what a change of scenery can do for a mood. For example, go to a play group, go to the park or a spray park if it’s hot out, hit story time at the library or just go for a nice long walk.
Speak in the positive
– this can be challenging but really does change your mood. For example, instead of saying no, use distraction by showing your child what they can do. Speaking in the positive takes the frustration of your child not listening out of the equation and lifts your mood because all the negative talk can be a real downer.
– if you have the luxury of having an hour or two to yourself when your child naps use that time to really pamper yourself. For example, take a bath, take a nap, curl up with a good book or veg out on the couch with your favourite sitcom. Forget about getting house work done or starting dinner it can all wait. Being in a better mood will make it all much less monotonous.
Call in reinforcements
– if you can, swap kids with a friend to have some time to yourself and allow your friend the same. Or if you have family nearby see if they can take the kids for a few hours. Then have a nap, go shopping, meet a friend for lunch or just enjoy having the house to yourself.
Hope some of these suggestions help you regain the patience you need to be the parent you want to be. Please send me any of your ideas cause you can never have too many techniques in your tool box to safe your sanity.
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